Atmosphere of Recovery (Group Guidelines)

There is much to be learned from the Anonymous Group traditions. Of special note are their rules for ensuring an atmosphere of recovery. PAIP groups are an atmosphere of recovery as well; recovery from abusive patterns of power and control.

Anonymous has created questions for individuals who attend group to ask themselves:

1) Do you respect the group enough to get there on time and stay engaged until the end?

2) Do you interrupt the group with chatter?

3) Is having (fill in the blank) so important that you interrupt or miss part of the group because you are focused on something/someone else?

4) Do you listen to the readings, tune out, or start talking?

5) Do you listen to other group members as they share issues that are important to them, regardless of how you feel about what they are saying?

6) Do you expect to attend group though you're late? Do you understand the importance of not being late?

7) Do you give other group members the same attention and respect you believe you deserve?

8) Do you feel that what you have to say is more important or that you are smarter than other group members? Do you monopolize the time by over talking, over explaining, or interrupting others?

9) Do you leave debris or items in the meeting space? Are you being mindful of how your belongings change the space? Do you need to clean up after yourself?

10) What are you doing to make the meeting more productive and inclusive? Are you sharing and caring and encouraging?

-SolEK, MS, CFLE, CDVP

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