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Alcohol and Other Drugs and Their Effect On Domestic Violence (Homework Assignment for June 17 & 18)



A majority of the research on alcohol and domestic violence can be summed up in this one statement, "Alcohol and domestic abuse are frequently paired. However, while alcohol is often involved in issues of intimate partner violence it is never the sole reason behind it" (alcoholrehabguide.org).

Attention: Alcohol is never the sole reason behind violence.

On the other hand, many people believe that alcohol plays a major role in the violence they have experienced. Some go as far as to blame alcohol for their violence. 

Whether you are a believer that alcohol causes violence, or you believe that it is not the sole reason for violence, or if you're on the fence about this issue, there are a few questions that need to be considered:

A) How does alcohol affect you: Do you tend to talk more and think less? Do you get what is referred to as beer muscles? Have you regretted things you've said or done while intoxicated? Do you drink to calm down? Do you drink to get your nerves up? Do you drink to forget? Do you drink to remember?
B) Have you suffered any losses because of your use of alcohol? Do you believe that alcohol helps you deal with your losses?
C) Has anyone ever told you to stop drinking?
D) Do you believe that your drinking is not an issue and everyone else just needs to relax?
E) Do you have a nagging suspicion that you may be in denial?

The fact of the matter is this: If alcohol is a problem in your life, you need to take corrective measures to improve your life. 

Assignment:
Interestingly, for those of us who have been violent, more than anything we are hooked on blaming others or something else for our aggression (alcohol, drugs, you name it).

Sometimes it's hard to own up to the things we have done; however, that is the beginning of taking personal accountability, and it is a necessary step in getting honest and improving our lives.


  • For those of you who have a tendency to blame alcohol, answer the questions above. 
  • For those of you who have a tendency to blame something else, answer the questions above and switch out the words alcohol and drinking and intoxicated with whatever fits your situation.

Also, view this video and share your thoughts about their ideas: 



-SolEK, MS, CFLE
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