CCSS PAIP

This week's lesson addresses misconceptions about violence and gender roles.  Hopefully, by this time you will have watched the video "Tough Guise: Manhood, and American Culture" featuring Jackson Katz. Building on the idea that some of our thoughts and expectations are ingrained through history, television, movies and advertisements, please watch the following one-hour HBO award-winning special. Violence: An American Tradition (Presented by HBO) After watching the video, be prepared to discuss on June 3 or 4, what beliefs these presentations may have dispelled for you and what new ideas they may have created. Once you have completed watching the video, to let facilitators know,  please follow this link .

In last week's lesson, it was discussed that everyone feels anger.  It is a normal human emotion. But more than that, anger is a secondary emotion, sometimes brought on to cloak to disguise fear, shame, anxiety or depression.  However, once anger can be moved out of the way, other emotions may come to the surface and be dealt with. Before taking a look through some ways to de-escalate the anger we feel, take a look at some of the things which don't work with the following YouTube video.   https://youtu.be/FsRMjJJoy24 Now then, when you feel anger, stop, take a deep breath and count to five slowly.  Examine what you are really feeling. Are there other emotions in the mix; issues that could be resolved if only they were addressed? If that doesn't work, try this. To kick anger to the curb, pay attention to the thoughts which fuel it.  "Poor me" "Life Sucks," "How dare they treat me like this," are all phrases which fuel anger.  Wi

If there is one emotion which can derail you – anger is it. Anger is a tough topic to talk about.   Everyone experiences it.   It is built into the human emotional landscape.   However, anger comes with baggage unlike any other emotion. People who struggle with anger are people in pain.   Ander is a secondary emotion which means there is a more vulnerable emotion under the anger such as hurt fear or shame.   With chronic anger, fear tends to be the most common underlying emotion.   Anger helps us feel powerful, strong and in control First a few concepts to understand anger. Ø   Anger cannot exist without judgement and criticism. Ø   Anger needs an enemy to exist Ø   Anger thrives on blame. Ø   Acting while under the influence of anger leads to regret. Ø   Ander covers up more vulnerable emotions like fear or hurt. When you feel angry, the first step is to identify your stage of anger: 1                    2                  3               4                   5

   There is a good reason the small piece of metal on a gun and the event or action which causes us to instantaneously react to something are both called triggers. Both can create bad outcomes and change situations for the worst in the blink of an eye. In the Ted Talk of Judson Brewer: A Simple Way to Break A Bad Habit: https://youtu.be/-moW9jvvMr4, Judson discusses the human reward-based learning system in which our memories form habits.  We use this formula to feel a certain way; reach for a comforting act; and feel rewarded. In a diet, we feel stressed, or angry, or hungry; eat a cookie; and feel satiated. In our relationships, when we feel upset because we don't feel understood, or heard, or loved; we may act in a negative way; and feel good from the momentary release of energy. Whether a cookie or a release of energy, we reinforce the behavior that a certain act i.e. eating, screaming, punching a wall or breaking a dish; is a great way to resolve a feeling. Read t