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20/20 for 2020


How can we take our accountability up a notch (or two) for the new year? Something we can try is concentrating on 20/20 for 2020. 

This new year can bring about new revelations, new strengths, and new insights via our renewed vision.

We can make a commitment to being more honest and accurate in our analysis of ourselves. We can dedicate ourselves to refusing to blame others. We can also refuse to minimize and deny the impact of our  actions, our feelings, and our thoughts too.

A clearer view of our deliberate negativity and subconscious shortcomings can position us to to see ourselves further into the future. Doing such may prompt us to ask and answer probing questions such as: What do we want to keep? And what do we want to leave behind? What do we have space for in our minds, our hearts, our lives? And what is (and has been) a hindrance?

For some of us, we may be throwing more away than keeping. And that's okay. That's the first step that makes the authentic, transformative difference. Just imagine the unnecessary anger, resentment, judgment, and pity parties all thrown away. That leaves us so much more space to fill with joy, appreciation, respect for self and others, maturity, accountability, and power – power to consistently bring forth the best of ourselves. 

Let's get rid of the commonplace practice of giving the least desirable parts of ourselves to the people who know us best and who give us the most. Let's do better for these people. Let's let the best have the best. Let's be our best selves to the people who sacrifice for us. Let's give our ultimate goodness to the people who we have vowed to care for. Let's be virtuous for the people to whom our love and attention and time make a life-changing difference.

So as we ponder 2020, let's be intentional. We'll intentionally work on sharpening our vision so that we can more efficiently see when change is needed. We'll intentionally work at examining our thoughts, questioning our motives, and being the police of our own actions. We'll intentionally restore order within ourselves so that others don't feel the need to.

Exercise: Watch the Jocko Wilink video and answer these questions to personalize your 20/20 for 2020 accountability plan.

-SolEK, MS, CFLE, CDVP






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