CCSS PAIP

A majority of the research on alcohol and domestic violence can be summed up in this one statement, "Alcohol and domestic abuse are frequently paired. However, while alcohol is often involved in issues of intimate partner violence it is never the sole reason behind it" (alcoholrehabguide.org). Attention: Alcohol is never the sole reason behind violence. On the other hand, many people believe that alcohol plays a major role in the violence they have experienced. Some go as far as to blame alcohol for their violence.  Whether you are a believer that alcohol causes violence, or you believe that it is not the sole reason for violence, or if you're on the fence about this issue, there are a few questions that need to be considered: A) How does alcohol affect you: Do you tend to talk more and think less? Do you get what is referred to as beer muscles? Have you regretted things you've said or done while intoxicated? Do you drink to calm down? Do you drink...

Losing your temper can also result in losing your home. Physical and verbal assaults can end your relationship and your lease.  It is important to understand that the mistreatment of others will not be tolerated. Landlords have the right to keep their property safe  for their tenants and free from damage.  If you're causing conflict that can be perceived as a harm to others or their property, you may find yourself in a worse position than you ever imagined... homeless .  Think about the following. The ACLU has recorded many instances of landlords and law enforcement taking action against people who violate the boundaries of others and refuse to behave respectfully. Here are the findings: Penalties on nuisance properties have been imposed. A “nuisance” is defined as a situation in which an occupant, guest or business invitee commits criminal activities or engages in disorderly conduct on the premises. (Remember domestic violence is a criminal ac...

There is much to be learned from the Anonymous Group traditions. Of special note are their rules for ensuring an atmosphere of recovery. PAIP groups are an atmosphere of recovery as well; recovery from abusive patterns of power and control. Anonymous has created questions for individuals who attend group to ask themselves: 1) Do you respect the group enough to get there on time and stay engaged until the end? 2) Do you interrupt the group with chatter? 3) Is having (fill in the blank) so important that you interrupt or miss part of the group because you are focused on something/someone else? 4) Do you listen to the readings, tune out, or start talking? 5) Do you listen to other group members as they share issues that are important to them, regardless of how you feel about what they are saying? 6) Do you expect to attend group though you're late? Do you understand the importance of not being late? 7) Do you give other group members the same attention and respect y...